Habit #5: Seek First To Understand, Then To Be Understood

The Habit of Mutual Understanding

People who seek first to understand, then to be understood try to completely understand another person before presenting their own point of view. 

Habit 5 means balancing courage and consideration and expressing our views with clarity and respect.

Language of Habit #5

  • I listen carefully

  • I speak clearly

  • I am honest and kind

  • I don't judge

  • I se "I", not "you"

  • I listen with my eyes, ears, and heart

Habit #5 Video - Jenny and Zippy

Habit #5 Video - Jenny and Chris